Relationship Patterns That Attract the Same Type of Person
Relationship patterns are the same behaviors we repeat with new people in relationships. The patterns are who we pick, how we interact, and how we allow them to treat us. Some can be good, and others can be bad. Here are some relationship patterns that keep you dating someone like your ex.
The Caregiver
Did you want to care for, fix or improve your ex-lover? Let’s say your credit score is 800, and your partner’s score is 402. You want to help build your partner’s credit so you can buy this big house next year.
There’s nothing wrong with being a caregiver, but the partner will resent you when you overdo it. But when your partner gets that 700 credit score, they are out the door and buy their crib in Buckhead.
The Alpha
Do you want to control everything, the money, the house, the wedding date? How much money do they need to make? “Oh, you don’t make enough money to buy a home in a year. We need $30,000 as a down payment, and you need to make more money. So, find a new job starting tomorrow so we can get this done. Okay? No excuses. Report back to me.”
The Parent
Did you talk to your ex as a child? “Did you pay that cable bill? Did you clean that garage? Look at that garage. It doesn’t look clean to me. I need you to clean that garage, NOW.”
The Codependent
Did you try to stop your ex from spending time with their family or friends? “You’ve been spending too much time with your family, and I am no longer a priority.”
These are my intakes on relationship patterns that make you date people like your ex.
Check out the Breakup Club Podcast Episode 4, “6 Reasons Why You May Be Dating Someone Just Like Your Ex”.
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