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You might be in a relationship with someone who tells you they love you, but how do you know they really do?

In my last video, I talked about how my mother thinks a relationship of convenience can work; however, times have changed since the 60s. Therefore, here’s my perspective on where a relationship of convenience could go wrong. 

I saw this quote. I am trying to remember who it was from, but it said, “Some people could love you only to the point that they can use you until the benefit stops.”

Here are four signs that a relationship of convenience will not work. 

1. Cheating isn’t a deal breaker. Someone might believe that if the partner gives them a mini-mansion, a luxury car, a shopping spree, world traveling, or part of an elite social circle and cheating is not flaunted, they will accept it. However, the third party will always be sloppy, and at the end of the day, material wealth will make them unhappy.
2. Acting like roommates. This behavior is typical for those in a relationship with children. They sleep in separate beds. They lack any heartfelt, emotional connection or stimulating conversation. They try to avoid attending or engaging in family and friends’ events. I can relate. I stayed in my marriage for too long because I didn’t want to be a single mother and didn’t want my son to grow up in a broken household. Unfortunately, kids can sense the disconnect between the parents resulting in disturbing behaviors and poor academic studies.
3. Conversation revolves around something they want. So let’s say it’s money. They are polite when they want favors but distant when they receive money. They will complain, “I don’t have enough money to do this or that,” until the other partner gives in to keep them at bay. 
4. Emotional blackmail. This behavior happens when one of the partners doesn’t get what they want. So if you say, “No, I can’t do it,” there’s the guilt trip. They will try manipulation tactics by saying, “Everything I have done for you, you can’t do this for me?”

Some couples are comfortable being in a relationship of convenience. However, if you’re not okay, you must have a serious conversation with your partner.