The real cause of a breakup is energy. We are like radio towers. We only attract energetic signatures familiar and comfortable to our own, meaning that relationship breakups happen when the partner’s energy no longer resonates or is in sync. And a tower moment happens, which causes the two to split.

So here’s a quick demonstration. A couple resonated at the same vibration when they first met. They may have some unresolved childhood issues. They may have some unhealthy behaviors or habits but are still attracted to each other. Now, let’s say one decides they want to raise their vibration.

One of the couples starts meditating. They started mastering their thoughts and healing some of their childhood wounds. They started making more money. Now there’s a disconnect, and the person that raised their vibration looks down at the partner and says, ” I don’t like your negative behavior. You need to change.”

Then the stagnant partner looks up to the other partner and says, “What are you talking about? This is who I am. We both drank and smoked at the beginning of our relationship, so now you think you are high and mighty?” The person that raises their vibration will start to notice negative behaviors within their partner that they didn’t see before. Initially, that person who now raised their vibration accepted or even participated in those behaviors. So it wasn’t an issue for them when they were on the same wavelength.

Now, the stagnant partner, disconnected from the other partner, attracts someone else that matches their frequency, resulting in a wrong decision that caused that tower moment.

So what is the solution? Well, you only have two options. The first is to continue increasing and elevating your vibration and standards before returning to the dating scene. Because someone will keep attracting emotionally unavailable and non-committal partners, you resonated in the same frequency as that other person, or you’ve lowered your standards to be with that person. Remember, standards are qualities and values within yourself, and lowering your standards means reducing your vibration.

The second option will be challenging and require a lot of patience, but you can uplift and encourage. You will not know how long it will take for the other partner to raise their vibration, evolve, and get to the level where you are. Some will resist the change and feel comfortable being where they at. And if that’s the case, let that person go, but continue to creep up your vibration because you eventually will start attracting other people that match your wavelength.