Here’s why your ex would try to return after moving on and what you need to do about it. When your ex return is not going to be blatant, “Hey, I miss you. Let’s try to get back together.” It’s going to be a little sneaky. 

But you know what’s crazy? 

The whole time you were going through your breakup stages, there was no contact from your ex. Your ex disappeared. But the minute you have healed from the pain, they pop out of the blue and decide to contact you. 

It’s all about energy.

After the breakup, you had them on your mind and vice versa 24/7. But what usually happens is your ex feels a gravity pull toward you. It drives your ex crazy. So, they find someone else for occupying their energy to get you off their mind.

And most of the time, the relationship never really works. It only lasts for a bit. The new partnership doesn’t have the strong emotional connection that your ex had with you. So now, since you have moved on, your ex feels an energetic disconnect with you. So your past lover wonders what you’re doing, if you’re seeing anyone, or if you’re happy without them.

Here are my three reasons why you ex returns after you’ve moved on:

1. You rebuild yourself. You started practicing self-love and self-respect. These characteristics are very powerful aphrodisiacs that not only other people can sense, but your past lover can, too. They begin to feel automatically drawn to you. It’s so ironic that anytime you want someone, they pull away. But the minute that you have no interest, they pull towards you. 
2. You look and feel better than before. Now you’re all happy, and your ex wants to join in your happiness. 
3. You set firmer boundaries and higher standards. Your ex knows that you are not playing any games. They know that they have to come correct when they approach you. 

So what should you do when your ex tries to return? First, when your ex contacts you, do not respond with resentment or anger because your response will let them know that you are still in love with them and haven’t moved on.

Instead, ask yourself these three questions: 

1. What has changed to make you think it will be better the next time? 
2. Are you willing to repair something that didn’t work the last time? 
3. If the trust was broken, do you want to rebuild it?

So if everything stays the same (and you can tell just by a few words from them) and you are unwilling to repair or rebuild the relationship, then this is how you should respond: 

“I hope all is well.”

Boom – done.