What to Do If He Says “I’m Not Ready for a Relationship”?
What would you say if he told you that he wasn’t ready for a relationship? This is the guy that you like. You’ve been dating for months and hanging out every weekend.
He’s a great catch.
You might even fall in love with him.
There are three reasons a man would say he’s not ready for a relationship.
- He’s just confused. He doesn’t know what the hell he wants.
- He wants the relationship to flow at his pace. He wants to take it slow.
- He’s not into you.
Either way, it still hurts hearing something that sounds like a rejection.
So how would you respond?
Some ladies would say, “Well, if you are not ready, stop wasting my time.”
You should ask yourself, “Do I love him at the emotional pace that he’s currently at, or does he need to work around my timeline, which is right now? ”
So this is how you can respond without sounding like it is an ultimatum, with no hard feelings.
“You should spend some time alone trying to figure out exactly what you want, and when you are ready and if I am available, then we could take it to the next level. I want you to be happy. But my happiness is just as important. I want someone who will be a hundred percent committed to this relationship and ready with no doubts. That’s what I deserve.”
Sounds better, right? It doesn’t sound so harsh.
Here are three things you want to refrain from saying or doing.
- You want to avoid convincing him to get into a relationship. If you try to force him, a breakup is bound to happen soon.
- Don’t keep in contact with him. He will call your bluff. He will contact you within a couple of weeks or maybe a month later, saying, “Hey, I’m just calling to see how you are doing,” to hear your response or if you would give in.
- Please don’t wait on him. Don’t wish, hope or rack your brain; if he’s going to call you back or if he’s going to change his mind. Remember when I said, “If I’m still available,“? This statement lets him know time is ticking and you have options.
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