Life is about relationships whether its friendships, business, or intimate. Some just didn’t last… we learn from it, we moved on with no strong emotional triggers or attachment. However; a strong relationship with an emotional tie can weigh heavy on our hearts.

Remember the first time you’ve been in love, your heart opens and you release this flood of feel-good chemicals that trigger reactions to grab them and kiss them passionately.

Or remember the first time you had a broken heart. Due to the unexpected death of a loved one, or a divorce can lead to emotional shock. Your chest feels heavy and tight. Your breathing is shallow causing your heart rhythm to act erratically which sends a signal to the brain to inhibits cognitive function (can’t think straight).

The heart has a neurological connection to the brain. When you faced trauma it causes a neurological disconnection that disturbs the heart normal pumping. According to American Heart Association and Mayo Clinic, it’s called the “Broken Heart Syndrome”.

The heart has the strongest electromagnetic field than our brain (60 times greater) and when the heart is hardened from old wounds and scarred from traumatic events it produces a surge of stress hormones. Everything you experience, feel and think are recorded in our cells, DNA. Why? Based on physics, all feelings and thoughts are energy and energy cannot be destroyed but can be altered or changed.

So, changing how we feel, changing our emotions, happens very naturally. We do it hundreds of times a day through music, when we go on holiday or relax, when we play sports, and in many other contexts. If we change the context and our internal thought processes, we can change the emotions. So, let’s get to it….let’s mend your broken heart now and free your mind to focus on your new desirable future.

1. Close your eyes and create a mental picture of the ex lover.
2. Ok..now open your eyes…
3. From a scale of 1-10; 10 feeling your best and 1 feeling your worst.
4. How do you feel?
5. In the next exercise; I want to you be aware of the feeling, including any area of tension in your body.
6. Close your eyes, visual a mental picture of the experience again.
7. Where do you see yourself in this picture? Are you experiencing the situation within your own eyes? Are you experiencing the situation as a third person?
8. Where do you see your ex-lover; in front; on the left or the right of you?
9. What area of your body do you feel discomfort?
10. Is there a color? If so, what color do you see? What the size of the color? (small, big, etc)
11. Now visualize shrinking the picture down from your mind’s eye down to your heart, stomach, legs and out to your feet?
12. As it reaches your feet; visual the floor opening and our falling to the next level.
13. Repeat steps 6-12 at least 4 times.
14. Rub your hands together to create heat for 10 seconds. Place your hands on the heart chakra and feel the energy expand and heal the heart.
15. Open your eyes.
16. From a scale of 1-10; how do you feel? (Notice any improvement?)

Keep repeating until you find it hard to create a mental picture or until there are no strong emotions attached to that experience.

Let me know how this NLP technique works for you.